We are going to build you ladder and this week we are constructing the first rung. I've struggled a bit with how to frame this. Not all of my friends share my religion, and some aren't Christian. A few don't hold any religious convictions in a higher power at all. But in the end, my faith is a big part of what holds me up and helps me through. Feel free to substitute my words in your head with words that jibe with your life philosophy.
In the Bible there is a story about a leper. He comes to Christ, wanting to be healed. Jesus tells him to go bathe in a specific river but the task seems so simple to heal from something as devastating as leprosy and so he ignores the advice. Luckily the man has a faithful servant who convinces him to do as commanded and guess what, it turns out he leaves the river a whole person.
I'm telling you this because sometimes in the throws of depression, it's really hard to follow simple advice. It's hard partly because you believe it won't help and it's hard because doing ANYTHING when you feel so low seems daunting. Don't ignore this advice. Just do it.
Here's your list for this week:
- Spend 15 minutes outside, barefoot. (see? you already don't believe me) Touching the earth grounds people literally and figuratively. Not on the cement. Not on rocks. On the grass or dirt. You can go to the park and let the kids run around, mow the lawn barefoot, sit on the lawn and read a book, just get outside. This is actually a two-for-one because being in the sunshine will also boost your vitamin D levels which support feeling good. It's 15 minutes, please don't put on sunscreen. That will kind of defeat the purpose.
- Go to bed at the same time, every night. New babies have a tendency to mess with circadian rhythms . We need to sync those suckers back up to help us feel better. I don't care if you're only 1/2 way through Cake Boss when bedtime rolls around, shut down the show and crawl in bed. (and really, if you're following the advice from the first post, your TV won't be on close to bedtime anyway)
- Allow 45 minutes to get ready for bed. Pick your bedtime, set an alarm in your phone or wherever and set it for 45 minutes before then. This gives you plenty of time to remember that school lunches aren't ready or you need to change the sheets or whatever last minute activities typically delay your going to bed.
Disclaimer: I am not a medical doctor. This is not medical advice. If you feel like harming yourself or someone else, don't mess around. Tell someone you trust, then go to the emergency room. That feeling is not a joke, it's your fail-safe warning system that things are about to implode.
Good luck this week. Feel free to post your successes and setbacks in the comments. Comments will be moderated. Negative comments directed toward people posting will not be tolerated. This is a safe space. The way you feel is valid and your freedom to express it will be protected here.